Chanel, Gucci,
Yves Saint Laurent, Christian Dior, Prada, Christian Louboutin, Brazilian
‘huuuuur’, French manicure, La Mer skincare, make-up, Beyonce kind of booty and
of course the sexy pout! Long lush
healthy hair and flawless skin, that is what most young women want and believe
will make them appear more ‘beautiful’ in the eyes of the opposite sex. Don’t
get me wrong loving and taking care of the way you look is great but in that
process we tend to forget our inner beings. The funny thing is when I asked
some of my good male friends how they would describe true beauty in a woman,
none of the former were mentioned; and these are the kind of men that we ‘fix’
ourselves for i.e. gentleman, successful, good looking, yes they are hot! Lol!
The kind your friends envy you for, the kind your aunts call ‘umkhwenyana’
after the first date *rolls eyes* and the kind your brothers don’t have jack to
tease you about....that kind of manJ.
It’s amusing how
cleavage, tiny waist, toned thighs, hips and thick lips never, not even once came up in conversation, you’d swear these men
were talking about an imageless figure!
To sum all my conversations up I will quote some of the things that
stood out for me; “Intelligence, humility and assertiveness...”, “Her heart, values,
character and personality...”, “Respect of self, how she carries and
articulates herself, how she projects her beauty, her mannerism...” (He
blatantly said its definitely not the way
she looks), “Confidence, her effortless nature and essence as a unique
individual, nothing copied or rehearsed...”, one said “ A huge accommodative
heart kodwa aphinde akwazi ukuba uMkabayi (from Isibaya) so she won’t be taken
advantage of...” ha ha! So hunnie, nobody wants a yes woman, I’m not saying now
become stubborn and hot headed, no, but you were blessed with a mind and you have values, beliefs and opinions of
your own as an individual – use them, they add to the essence of you as an
individual and a beautiful unique woman you aspire to be.
After digesting
all these conversations I came to the conclusion that spending so much time in
salons, in front of the mirror, at the gym and spending ridiculous amounts of
money on various things that we think or hope will help you “catch” that man...it’s
all in vain really. Now don’t get me wrong, if you personally know me then
you’ll know that I’m 110% for good health, wellness and all things beautiful;
but only if it’s for yourself, maybe it makes you feel more beautiful, more
confident or makes you feel like you can conquer the world! Yes! I’m with you
there hun! If it’s to catch some man’s attention then...well...I’ll meet you at
the next stopJ.
This is my heart – true external beauty radiates from what’s inside of you,
nurture that and true happiness, contentment and that intense joy are
inevitable!
Beauty of character outlasts
beauty of fashion...
Stay true!
Sindisiwe
Uzuri
PS: Note that I mentioned men and
women, boys and girls might probably beg to differ ;)
