Monday, 16 September 2013
Thursday, 12 September 2013
First Impression: "Hello!"
Hi, my name
is Mandla and I’m a Civil Engineer...Unless ufuna uJaivayoyo ozokuqola be my
guest.
All that is
about to follow is not written because I’m a spokesperson for the women species
(well, maybe I am) but please take it like you would coming from your own
sister. An ambitious and successful man is very appealing to women, believe you
me, when we write in our diaries growing up those two words definitely feature
on our ‘list’, yes, there is a list of all the qualities you look for in a
potential partner that most girls write from a young age, it does change as we
grow, go through certain experiences, are exposed to even more things and the
more men we meet as we go along, note, I said meet not 'have fun with'.
Like
anything in life there has to be a start/beginning, in this case for any
relationship to blossom there has to be that initial communication usually
initiated by men (not so much these days though) . First impressions last - this does not only
apply to career related encounters but everything that pertains to you as an
individual, relationships being one of those things which makes that first
"Hello" as Beyonce would
serenade you determines if you have me or not.
"Hi, my name is Mandla and
I’m a Civil Engineer..." has been my worst yet, honestly the last
thing on my mind when I see your face for the first time is what you do, how
much is in your bank account and how much more is still coming your way
possibly my way too if I'm a good little girl! Asking for my banking details,
giving me your black card for a shopping spree in Gateway or my best yet, a
shopping spree abroad *rolls eyes*, offering me a job or to go on a 'business
venture' together (BEE tendencies) WILL NOT WORK.
I hope this
puts my other brothers at ease, Mr. Money Spender doesn't always get the ten digits :) so go on ahead and ask that
lady you have been shy to greet at the coffee shop every morning, library, gym, church, work etc. for the
past century already! If you make us
laugh when you say hello - 10 brownie
points for you! All we really need is someone who genuinely cares, respectful,
honest, kind and humble, intelligent, ambitious, driven and hard working,
someone who has our back, we need to feel safe and protected (maybe that's just
me but hey...). Oh! The way you carry and conduct yourself even before you utter anything
can also make or break that 'hello'; yes, we are observant like that. Lets not
get to the hygiene and the dressing part or your 'game' (as my dear friend
Londiwe Maphisa would say) after the 'hello' that's for another day.
My point
is, everybody has a chance, yes, EVEN YOU! *Eugene Khoza* Ha ha! Please note:
This is my viewpoint and we are all different as individuals, different strokes
for different folks and I speak for women not girls, ladies not platinum
diggers.
Go on, say
hello! ;)
Wednesday, 11 September 2013
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Approach: Written 27 July 2011
This is of vital importance because it'll either bring a smile or a frown which will determine whether you get any contact or not. This morning from the gym rushing for work carrying a hand bag, gym bag, in high heels with an umbrella because its raining. This guy comes up to me and walks with me:
G: Hello
U: Hi
G: You look beautiful
U: Thank you
G: I like your hair
U: Thank you
G: Please cover me with your umbrella
U: ???? Its small and if I cover you then I'll get wet
G: Oh...( silence) where are you going?
U: to work
G: where?
U: silence *thinking, ngyasindwa, you have not offered to carry one bag for me, uthi angikukhave with my umbrellar, kuyanetha! vele why didn't u get on nendlela yakho! SERIOUSLY? REALLY?!
G: Please give me your number
U: silence
G: Oh uyangziba
U: silence
G: awufuni ne number yakho...
U:*Im thinking for 5 minutes!!!!!!!*
G: Sisi..........eventually leaves me alone.
Guys?! Get the big bag first! maybe ne umbrella ke. Try to make the situation lighter *pun intended* You'll get a smile, a thank you, a good chat...maybe ne number ke depends on our next lesson: FIRST IMPRESSION.
Hhayi ngoba ngazi kakhulu, women differ, this is just me.
First Impression long overdue! Coming soon :)
Thank you Father you made me Sindisiwe Cele...
I wrote this almost 7 years ago, it's about time I do what I was created to do...Free fall...
Beautiful, I am.
Lovely, gorgeous, stunning and hot if you like.
IBhomu, iyababa, some even call me isibhaxu.
Who am I to complain, for “this” is Gods creation.
Perception, many have their own ideas about who I am,
Expect me to be a certain way, behave a certain way,
Speak, walk and even dress a certain way.
“More than meets the eye”
That is how I like to define myself
Because there’s more to me than “this”.
Intelligent, loving, caring, kind, honest, humane,
Generous, friendly, compassionate – that is all me!
I am not saying I am little Miss perfect - but hey!
We all have our little demons!
Pity you wont get to know the real me
For you already have this perception of who I am.
How I should dress, walk, talk, and behave,
Where and whom I should hang around with… even what to eat!
Expectations. Too bad for you I don’t meet yours.
Wasn’t my goal anyway……….
I’m not about to change me just to impress you and everybody else.
This is who and what I am and I LOVE ME!
The future. Tomorrow I might burn and you won’t see “this” ever again.
I’m so glad those who know the real me know that my beauty is more
Than these eyes and luscious lips, more than these curves and African hips.
For my beauty is more than skin deep.
Beautiful, indeed I am – in every way possible.
THANK GOD I AM ME!!!
SINDISIWE CELE
25/04/2006
18:45
Tuesday, 10 September 2013
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